Moriamo's Story
Even though I was supporting him financially, I believed we were building a worthy future together; nothing prepared me for the rollercoaster I would be on for the next five years. And when all was said and done, I realized I had basically been in the relationship by myself. Eberechi Okwubodu and his family had meticulously manipulated the relationship so much so that by the time they were done, I was almost ruined financially; emotionally, mentally, and physically, I was drained.
For a while, I couldn't find myself in all the chaos they left behind. I felt like I failed my children, and I did fail them in that instant. Betrayal is one thing, but having it done to you by someone you trust wholeheartedly is another. I couldn't recognize myself in the mirror. I looked totally different from the woman I was before I met him. My hair was falling out, my face was five years older, and I was unsure if I would ever return to my career as a correctional officer due to an injury. I reached out to his family so many times to no avail. They behaved as if I never existed in his life.
I did not want him to think he won; I did not want them to believe they won. They might have manipulated and deceived me, but it was up to me to restart my life, not for vengeance, but for my true self, my children, and others who might have experienced such deep betrayal and thought life ended with it.
I rose. I reflected. I leaned on family, some of whom he tried to annihilate from me with his lies, and God. God really got me through it all; There were so many emotions going through my mind, most of which centered on the thought of beginning again. Relationships collapse all the time, but to waste five years on a relationship based on lies is another kind of turmoil. I wanted to file a lawsuit in a Texas court for damages, financial and punitive. But I felt I had a greater purpose to fulfil, educating others on having the discernement to see the warning signs of these scams before they get sucked in.
I know people have questions; why did I continue in the relationship? Why didn't I leave at the first red flag? Why did I not stop the petition before Eberechi got his US residency visa approved? The truth is, Eberechi presented himself as an upright young man, a Christian from a good home, and somebody with integrity. I thought I saw in him someone who matched my greater good energy. I have always tried to see the good in people, and I thought I was supporting my better half.
In the end, I realized Eberechi just wanted a ticket to come to the United States and pursue his own dreams. And, I am not mad about that. I was never upset about that. What I don't understand is why he still gaslighted me in the emotional, verbal, and mental abuse despite knowing he did not want to stay in the relationship. Why not just leave?
All these, and more, are documented in my book, Betrayed: A Journey of Love, Loss, and Renewal, to help others rethink and reroute themselves once they see these red flags in any relationship, not just romantic ones. The pain of betrayal really drains victims of so much that they have to pick up from and restart their lives.
There are many downs immediately after betrayal. I thought I could never let go of the pain, but I had to rise from the ashes and reclaim my life. I created the Restart Your Life course to help others start and maintain their recovery and renewal journey. Each module invites you to dive deeper into your thoughts, celebrate small victories, and chart a clear path forward. You will learn how to delete limiting beliefs and create new realities for yourself. The workbook guide offers practical advice, affirmations, and quizzes to help you assess your current situation and work toward your desired goals. Betrayal cuts deep. But we can rise. We are resilient. We can do it. We can restart. Not only after betrayal, but other human conditions that need us to push that reset button.
Thank you for reading my story. If it resonates with you, you can start your healing journey by getting the free Betrayal Recovery Starter Guide to propel you forward. Inside, you’ll discover affirmations, reflections, and prompts designed to guide your healing journey—shedding light on hidden patterns, nurturing resilience and self-compassion, and sparking fresh insights along the way.
Restart Now.
Love,
Moriamo.
